The Refuge Movement · A pastoral cohort

The church can become a place of refuge again.

Addressing the silent struggle with clarity, compassion, and courage.

The Refuge Movement is being developed for pastors who want to engage sexual brokenness with greater clarity, compassion, and courage—both in their own lives and within the churches they lead.

The next pastors gathering is September 16.Join us at CityBridge Community Church for Called to Care, a practical workshop for pastors and ministry leaders.

The next gathering

Hosted at CityBridge Community Church

Called to Care

A practical workshop for pastors and ministry leaders

Jesus consistently moved toward the broken, the hurting, and the lost. As shepherds, we are called to do the same.

Sexual addiction and betrayal often remain hidden within our churches—leaving individuals trapped in shame, spouses carrying deep wounds, and families unsure where to turn. Called to Care will equip pastors and ministry leaders with the understanding, language, and practical tools to respond with both grace and truth.

  • Respond safely and compassionately when someone discloses a hidden sexual struggle
  • Understand the wounds experienced by betrayed spouses and families
  • Avoid common pastoral responses that unintentionally deepen shame or harm
  • Walk with people without attempting to become their counselor
  • Build clear pathways toward specialized care, recovery, and supportive community
  • Cultivate churches where the broken can come into the light and encounter the care of Christ
Why this matters

The church should not have to wait for a crisis to begin creating safety.

Most churches respond to sexual brokenness when it surfaces. Few have created the conditions for healing before it does.

Our hope is not simply that churches respond well after pornography, unwanted sexual behavior, betrayal trauma, or hidden shame comes into the light. We want to help churches become places where people can step out of hiding, be fully known and loved, receive wise care, and walk a clear pathway toward freedom and restoration.

That work begins with pastors who have a safe place to be honest, receive support, and lead from growing health rather than isolation.

One cohort · Two essential movements

Care for the pastor. Equip the church.

The Refuge Movement holds together two realities that are often separated: pastors need meaningful care in their own journeys, and churches need intentional pathways for caring for others.

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A place for pastors to be known

Pastors carry the weight of other people’s stories while often lacking a trusted place for their own. The cohort creates room for honest connection, personal reflection, spiritual care, and healing without performance or isolation.

02

A pathway for churches to respond wisely

Pastors will gain language, frameworks, and practical next steps for building safer and more redemptive pathways of care for individuals, spouses, families, and leaders impacted by sexual brokenness.

What we are building

More than a single gathering

This is a recurring pastoral space designed to deepen honest relationships and move churches from reactive care toward thoughtful, sustainable ministry.

Honest connection

Meaningful conversation with pastors who understand the weight and complexity of ministry.

Clearer understanding

Biblically grounded and clinically informed insight into sexual brokenness, shame, and recovery.

Practical pathways

Frameworks for moving from crisis response to intentional care, recovery, and restoration.

Sustainable leadership

Next steps that honor each church’s context, capacity, and responsibility of care.

The conversation

What the cohort will help pastors explore

The final sequence will be shaped with participating pastors, while remaining centered on the realities churches encounter most often.

Recognizing what sexual brokenness actually looks like in a congregation
Responding with truth and compassion without increasing shame
Caring wisely for spouses, families, students, and ministry leaders
Understanding pastoral limits, referral needs, and appropriate levels of care
Building a culture where confession can be met with safety and hope
Identifying a realistic next step for your church’s recovery ministry
Upcoming cohort

Be the first to receive the details.

The dates, location, format, and participation details for the next cohort are still being finalized.

Complete the brief interest form to let us know you would like to be included. We will contact you when the cohort takes shape so you can review the details and decide whether it is the right fit.

Your hosts

Helping pastors lead with clarity, compassion, and courage

Joel Warneking

Executive Director, Men’s Ministry, 423 Communities

Ben Williams

Youth & Family Director, 423 Communities

Joel Warneking and Ben Williams lead a growing national recovery movement at 423 Communities. As PSAPs—Pastoral Sex Addiction Professionals—they serve pastors, churches, families, and individuals navigating the realities of sexual brokenness, betrayal, addiction, shame, and recovery.

423 Communities provides recovery groups, leadership development, pastoral training, resources, and recovery initiatives for men, women, betrayed spouses, teens, parents, and church leaders.

423 Communities exists to strengthen the local church by helping leaders build safer, wiser, and more redemptive pathways of care for those impacted by unwanted sexual behavior, pornography, betrayal trauma, and hidden shame.

The Refuge Movement

You do not have to lead this conversation alone.

Join the interest list for the upcoming pastoral cohort and help the church become a place of refuge again.

Submitting the form expresses interest only. There is no commitment until the final cohort details are announced.