Asking the “Why?” question is beneficial in two ways. First, this self-reflective process slows the addict down. To ask ourselves in moments of temptation, “Why am I doing this?” may interrupt the addictive cycle long enough for us to gather our mental faculties as the intensity of the temptation lessens. If we come to our senses during a moment of thoughtful self-probing, we earn a small victory which we can file away and later report to our brothers or sisters at the next 423 Men or 423 Women meeting. There we may be greeted with applause and high fives. A win like this is empowering and provides a foundation of success recovering addicts can build upon.
Secondly, we get to know ourselves. There is no better time than just prior to engaging in the addictive behavior to delve deeply into an exploration of self. When every part of a man or woman’s being cries out for their sex drug, a little self-denial will force them to feel the pain of withdrawal. This crisis becomes the perfect occasion for the addict to start the investigative process of discovering the personal issues which historically have been the driving force behind their addiction. This approach is the addict’s version of the biblical mandate, “Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you” (James 4.7-8a NAS). Unpleasant feelings exist for a reason, and it’s the addict’s job in recovery to find out why they exist. “What am I feeling right now?” and “Why do I feel the way I do?” and finally, “What can I do about it?”
As we confront ourselves, our feelings and our behaviors, prayer becomes our best friend. One of the most effective is the “Serenity Prayer” in conjunction with personalized lines from the “Lord’s Prayer” and guidance from Apostle Paul.
This process of self-analysis is not intuitive. It’s much easier to run into the comforting embrace of our beloved porneia, but godly resistance is not futile. The Bible says, “Flee porneia” (1st Corinthians 6.18a). It can be done. Your recovery plan works, if you work the plan. It takes prayer, practice, patience, perseverance, and most importantly, time spent each week with supportive sisters or brothers in recovery who are on their own journeys of self-discovery with you.
 Attributed to American theologian, Reinhold Niebuhr, published in 1951 and adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12-Step recovery programs.
 Adapted from the words of Jesus in His famous ‘Sermon on the Mount’ recorded by gospel writer Matthew (6.13 KJV) and Paul in his first letter to the Corinthian church (10.13 NIV 2011).