In her 1932 Pulitzer Prize winning book The Good Earth, Pearl Buck brilliantly and artfully describes the course of sexual addiction in the life of a peasant farmer around the turn of the last century in China. After enduring unspeakable poverty, Wang Lung finally achieves a measure of success and wealth. He becomes arrogant and loses his moral bearings. Driven by lower instincts he pursues his lust for a young prostitute, learning the hard way, that bad sex never satisfies.
Pearl Buck’s hero is inexplicably determined to destroy himself. What compels smart people to do stupid things? Ask an Islamic suicide bomber, or a compulsive gambler, or a guy hooked on endless hours of internet porn, or the abused wife returning home for more of the same. There is no answer beyond pointless rhetoric, pathetic excuses, and empty apologies. “Fallen! Fallen is Babylon the Great,” but lost and hurting souls still “drink the maddening wine of her adulteries” (Revelation 14.8). Like the Gerasene demoniac, they are “driven by the demon into solitary places” of isolation and personal destruction (Luke 8.29 NIV).
Sexual sin thrives in isolation and secrecy. I am as sick as my secrets. Will I come out of hiding and join the human family? Will I allow myself to be fully known, and seek to know others fully? Will I join a trusted community of like-minded people who will help me on my journey of self-discovery?
I cannot heal without dependable and loyal friends in recovery who show up every week to hear my story and share their own. I must confess my sins, but not with everyone. I should be selective in my choice of confidants. Those with whom I bare my soul, share my life, and fully disclose my secrets must be trustworthy.
The same man who forced a “Legion” of devils into a herd of pigs, offers every hopeless addict “authority over all demons” (Luke 8.30ff; 9.1 KJV). You can overcome sexual sin, but not alone. Join a 423 Community of trustworthy men, women, or young people today.
There is hope and there is a way out.