Success in any endeavor depends on hope. We possess an astounding capacity for longsuffering in difficult situations as long as hope is alive. But when the flame dims and hope is extinguished, it’s all over. We engage in a process of slow death by grasping at habit-forming activities, like bad sex, and its false promise of a life with meaning. We want the truth that “will set you free” (John 8.32) but instead, we settle for a B.T.N. (better than nothing), lesser truth. It’s a counterfeit replica of truth, but it’s all (we think) we have. Our unhappy situations worsen as misguided and addictive actions escalate in the desperate search for hope in all the wrong places.
Many nine-to-fivers live for the weekend in hope of filling the space of forty-eight hours with enough television, recreation, sex, food, sleep, and alcohol to sustain them for another five days of drudgery at meaningless jobs. The overachiever falls into exactly the same trap. As a successful professional, he gropes for the illusion of significance and trades his family and faith for a career promising status, peer approval, and the finer things only high salaries can provide. But hope is not a commodity. It cannot be bought even with hyper-dedication to a temporal goal.
Hope begins at a particular point… the point of truth. It’s more than theological truth. It’s the truth about you… your calling, your God-given design, your relationship with Jesus, your purpose, your dreams, your ‘who-I-am-ness.’ You must be clear, very clear on this truth. Know Him and know yourself. This is your journey of self-discovery. Don’t sell out for a smaller truth or another person’s truth. Find the truth about you. Keep searching until you peel away every layer of false hope and discover the real, naked, and unencumbered you. Jesus will meet you there. He’ll take you by the hand and show you the inner worlds you must conquer. He’ll reveal your original destiny. He’ll impart a single-minded focus-ability empowering you to drive with all your might “toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3.14). This is your truth and it’s the only place to find lasting hope. This is the hope worth living for because it’s based on a truth worth dying for.
Once you get this hope, never let it go. Keep hope alive “through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures,” as Paul exhorted the church in Rome:
Recovery is not about stopping your bad sexual behavior. It is about discovering the reasons for your bad sexual behavior. It’s about knowing who you are and why you do what you do. You can climb the mountain of self-discovery and there find the purity and freedom you seek. With help from Jesus and your brothers in recovery, you will reach the summit. Never give up hope. Have hope in the never-ending love and redemptive power of Jesus which purifies you, just as He Himself is pure.
There is hope.