423 Communities International is not about stopping your bad sexual behavior. It is about discovering the reasons for your bad sexual behavior. You made the decision to enter a recovery program like 423 Men or 423 Women because you are fed up with your never-ending pursuit of porneia  and you are ready to make a change. You hope the 423 recovery program will do for you what you cannot do for yourself. You think the program will make you stop misbehaving sexually. It never happens, at least not in the way you expect.
Perhaps you got caught using online pornography at work by the PR Department of your company, or your spouse discovered a record of seductive texts with another person on your cell phone, or the judge threatened jail time for your crime of patronizing a prostitute, or the pastor delivered a stirring sermon on the subject of purity last Sunday and you ‘feel convicted.’ You may be prompted, by any of a variety of similar circumstances, to get help and to become determined, once and for all, to “Flee porneia” (1st Corinthians 6.18a).
What makes this event different than all the other times you got caught or felt convicted, and supposedly became determined to change? The difference is that now, whether persuaded by others or as a matter of personal conscience, you chose to join a community of recovery. Now there is a microscopically thin ray of real hope.
You can overcome sexual sin, but you cannot do it alone. That is not to say that the other people in your recovery group will become responsible for your healing. No one can make you get better. Jesus will not force you to take the steps necessary to overcome your pattern of sexual sin. Neither will your brothers or sisters in recovery. This is one of the hardest lessons, for both addicts and those who love addicts, to learn: No one can make you give up your addiction or bad sex habits; you must do that on your own. Others may cheer you on, but you recover for yourself and by yourself.
True recovery only happens, if it does, in community, but the decision to get better is an individual decision, belonging to you alone. Even if your spouse, employer, a court of law, the pastor of your church, or God Himself threatens, “Get treatment, or else,” still you find recovery (if you do) and get better (if you do) of your own accord. You cannot fix your problem alone, but neither can anyone else fix it for you.
Herein lies the mystery of redemption every addict longs for: You need a community of support if there is to be even the slightest hope for recovery, but that hope is found within yourself and nowhere else.
Are you that woman? Are you that man? If so, you may be blind to the “the hope that is [already] in you” (1st Peter 3.15 NAS) until your friends shine the searchlight of Christ’s immeasurable love into the dark and secret regions of your soul. You need your sisters and brothers in recovery. They relentlessly remind you that you are fully loved (as you are) and have everything it takes (within yourself) to win your battle against the spirit of porneia. You cannot heal alone, but you can heal. You must come out of isolation and join others in your battle for purity.
You can overcome sexual sin, but you cannot do it alone. There is hope. Join a 423 Community today!
 Porneia is a Greek word found in the ancient biblical manuscripts and may be pronounced por-NAY-uh. The word is found 25 times in the Greek New Testament and 17 times in the Septuagint (LXX), the Greek translation of the Hebrew Scriptures. It means unlawful sexual intercourse and translated as fornication, sexual immorality, promiscuity, marital unfaithfulness, and loss of virtue. It is sometimes used in the Bible metaphorically pertaining to the practice of idol worship. Dietrich Bonhoeffer described porneia as “any sexual irregularity inside or outside of the married life. Such irregularity is sin…” (The Cost of Discipleship, chapter 10 “Woman,” Simon & Schuster, 1959, p. 133). For the purposes of this book, I will refer to porneia as any form or wrong sexual behavior.
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