2nd Samuel 11.1 NIV
“In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army…. But David remained in Jerusalem.”
WARNING: The following contains biblical sex and violence. This is an “R-rated” Bible story. Reader beware...
King David should have been leading his troops and fighting battles together with his warriors. Instead he sent Joab, the commander of his army, to do the king’s job. In so doing, David gave away a small portion of his power.
Things got worse. Back home the king slept with the wife of Uriah, one of his most valiant soldiers. To cover up his sin, David eventually gave Joab the order to murder this loyal soldier. In so doing, King David now gave a major portion of his power away.
Instead of following the king’s order, Joab got the job done another way. He sent Uriah with a larger group of men to the besieged city wall. It was a suicide mission. Close to the wall Joab’s warriors would be an easy target for the enemy’s arrows. It was a stupid military tactic and Joab anticipated David’s wrath…
Joab disobeyed a direct order of the king. David was livid but unaware of the subtle shift of royal power from himself to the commander of his army. Joab was able to quiet David’s fury with three simple words: “Uriah… is dead” (2nd Samuel 11.24). When David included Joab in his cover-up, he unwittingly gave up political power to his military chief.
It always happens that way. If you sin, those you recruit to hide your sin will eventually turn against you and use your secret to their own advantage. Joab had David under his political thumb until the king’s death twenty years later. It was an uncomfortable balance of power from which David never fully recovered.
When you sin, it is never OK to panic and collaborate with others in a cover-up. If you hide your sin you give your power away to a force much greater than your own. Your destiny lies in the hands of those who will use your dirty, little secret to advance their own agendas. Don’t give them that kind of power. Instead, be strong in your repentance. Admit your sin to God and every involved party. Trust His word:
Don’t give your power away. You are only as sick as your secrets. Tell the truth. When disclosing sexually addictive sin, be appropriate and selective. You don't have to share with everyone. Find those you can trust... like the members of your 423 Men, 423 Women, or 423 Young Men's group. Be courageous and humble. Confess your sin and retain the power of God in your life.